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Conversations about well-being - How can I help?

Having their lecturer or supervisor initiate a conversation with them can have a positive effect for students who are struggling. This can make them feel seen, heard and accepted, and they typically feel that they and their challenges are being taken seriously.

If you as a lecturer are in a position to initiate a conversation with a struggling student, then do so. It’s often a big help, although you yourself may not be able to help the student with the challenge they are facing. Once you understand why the student is in distress, you can always refer them to the appropriate university support resource.

What have other lecturers experienced?

Below are some examples of the topics students talked to lecturers and supervisors about:

  • I’ve had students tell me about their diagnosis on several occasions, for example depression, anxiety and stress. This can be difficult to talk about.

  • I find that it can be difficult to tell a student that they are not ready for a work placement or are not qualified.

  • I’ve had conversations with students about whether they belong at university.

  • I sometimes have students who want to talk to me either right before or right after class. This is often a bad time for me.

What can you do yourself?

  • Make space for the conversation
    How can you prioritise conversation with your students in your busy schedule? Can you set aside time after class once a month? Do you have regular office hours? If you set aside time for conversations with struggling students, you can plan them better. And if students approach you spontaneously, you can suggest a specific time for the conversation. This will enable you to make time to talk to the student without it disrupting your day or your schedule.

  • Use the conversation to deepen your understanding
    When preparing for conversation about their well-being with a struggling student, you may find it helpful to refer to the student life model, which will aid you in formulating open-ended, nuanced questions:

    • What challenges is the student experiencing?

    • With what aspects of student life are the student’s challenges particularly associated?

      • Are the challenges primarily associated with the students’ ability to acquire knowledge and skills?

      • Or is it more a question of challenges in participating in student life and the culture of the degree programme?

      • Are the challenges primarily related to difficulties in maintaining a good balance between study and leisure time?

  • Be honest with the student
    If what you observe gives you cause for concern, for example frequent absence from class, then say so. Explain what requirements the student is expected to live up to. If you are unable to help but don’t feel that you are able to, say so.

  • Follow up on the conversation
    How might you follow up on the student after your conversation? Send a mail a week or a month later? Make an agreement with some fellow students – with the consent of the struggling student – to provide ongoing support?

 

Good advice on handling a conversation about well-being

This guide will help you prepare for a conversation with a student who is struggling. The conversation can be initiated either by the student or by you as lecturer/supervisor. Regardless of who takes the initiative, there are some important issues you should consider before, during and after the conversation.

Before the conversation

  • Select an appropriate time and place. It’s important to set aside plenty of time for a conversation about their well-being with a struggling student and to select an appropriate venue. Where and when would it be appropriate to have the conversation? In your office or in a group room? It must be possible to speak together without outside interruption.

  • Consider the objective of the conversation. Who initiated the conversation: the student? Or you yourself, out of concern or because there have been incidents or observations you would like to discuss with them? What do you hope to achieve with the conversation?

  • Consider writing a formal agenda. Writing a formal agenda can be a good idea. It can create a good flow in your conversation and give the student a sense of security.

  • Consider how much time to allocate. It’s important not to schedule the conversation too tightly: make sure you set aside enough time. At the same time, make it clear that the conversation needs to end by a specific time.

  • Reflect on your role and your boundaries. Be careful to distinguish between personal and professional content. Think about where your boundaries are: how can you provide support to the student? What can you help with, and what are you unable to help with? What sources of support can you refer them to if necessary?

During the conversation

Start by stating explicitly why the conversation is taking place.

For example:

  • You have asked to talk to me. What would you like to discuss with me?
  • I’ve asked you to come in today because I’m concerned about...I’ve noticed...I’m worried that...

During the interview, it’s important that you take a curious, exploratory approach and remain non-judgemental. It’s a good idea to describe what you observe about the student, and to ask questions in an open, empathetic manner.

For example:

  • I can see that you’re upset. Can you tell me what’s going on with you right now?
  • What do you think is the reason that...How do you feel that....
  • Can you help me understand why...Do you recognise...
  • Can I tell you what I think? I think it might also be about...What do you think about that?
  • What do you think might help you? What has helped before?
  • Are there any small steps you can take in that direction?
  • I think that someone else will be able to help you more because...

Involve the student if the conversation isn’t going anywhere. Tell the student that you feel that the conversation isn’t going anywhere and ask them if they feel the same. Invite the student to contribute their ideas about how you can move forward in a way that is useful to them.

Make room for a break if the student gets very upset or gets stuck. Or if you sense that both of you need some air, then say that you think it’s time for a break.

 

Conclude: the conversation by summarising what you’ve discussed. It’s a good idea to inform the student when you’re running out of time.

For example:

  • Now we have ten minutes left. Do you have anything else you think it’s important to say? It’s also important that we have time to sum up our discussion and discuss where we go from here.
  • I’d like to round off our conversation by revisiting what I think are the most important points...
  • We discussed that the next step is...
  • I think we should sum up our discussion together. What do you think is ‘the takeaway message’ from our conversation?
  • What was it like for you to discuss these things today?

After the conversation

Consider following up on the conversation. You may wish to invite the student to a follow-up discussion at a later date or send a follow-up email. Ask the student how things have been going since your conversation.

Consider sharing your experience with a colleague. conversation with struggling students can be challenging. You may feel a need to ‘get it out of your system’ afterwards. If so, it’s important that you share your experience with a colleague or your manager.


Contact

The content is written by Hanne Balsby Thingholm at Rådgivnings- og støttecentret in collaboration with Centre for Educational Development and student guidance counsellors (VEST).


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